I have a lot of capacity to love. I want to love anyone who deserves it. I don’t need to be loved by others, but I definitely wouldn’t reject the love from my loved ones. Loving others is so beautiful and pleasing to me. It’s more beautiful and pleasing than being loved. This is of course difficult to do for those who are yet to build up their capacity to love.
The greatest love of all is loving oneself. I love myself so much and now I have so much loving capacity that I want to give it to others. It’s like the feeling of being rich that I want to make donations to those who need it (but not those who just want it due to greed). When you are “rich”, you can feel the happiness of giving. When you are “poor”, you can only feel happy when you receive alms from others, like a beggar.
How do I love myself? I have learnt the skill to stay happy and equanimous under any circumstances. This skill requires me to see no self, i.e. selfless. This kind of selflessness is the greatest selfishness, because it makes oneself have no suffering but happiness and equanimity. This is the greatest self interest of all. When you stop seeing the body as the self, stop thinking the self is inside the body, you will have no more fear, obligations and guilt (FOG). The body is just an avatar remotely controlled by the real self. It’s like a vehicle that you drive; whatever happens to the vehicle doesn’t have to cause suffering to you, unless you allow it.
When you have no ego (i.e. no I, my, or myself) and no desire (leading to no greed, hatred and delusion), you will have no more suffering. You will be happy and have a lot of energy to love others. You will be lovely and naturally receive love, although you don’t think about getting it.
If you really love yourself, you will never let yourself be unhappy. If you can get all the love that you need from yourself, why do you need love from others? If you don’t love others, how can you expect others to love you?
RESILIENT KID 
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