Good Life

Life is worth living if you make it into a good life. It is possible to have a good life being single forever, and it is also possible to have a good life being married to a good spouse and having children who bring a lot of joys.

Life is not worth living if one makes it into a bad life. One can have a bad life being single forever, and one can also have a bad life being married to a bad spouse and having children who cause countless troubles.

Some people are always unhappy, some of them are single while others are married. Unhappy people often blame their misfortune on others. They sometimes blame their parents. The fact is, no one and nothing can hurt your feelings unless you allow it to happen; this is true because you are the only one who has access to your mind to create happiness or unhappiness. If you choose to be unhappy, no one and nothing can make you happy. If you choose to be happy, no one and nothing can make you unhappy; which is only possible if you cultivate yourself spiritually to have perfect virtue, equanimity and wisdom. If one is unhappy, he only has himself to blame. He raced with other sperms and penetrated the ovum in his mother’s body; he shouldn’t blame his parents for giving birth to him. His parents didn’t choose to give birth to him; they may be happier if another sperm won the race. He should blame himself for making his life into a bad one. Unhappy people cause problems to themselves and their parents; they owe their parents many apologies instead of the other way round.

A person who has perfect virtue, equanimity and wisdom can be happy under any circumstances. Birds of the same feather flock together. Only a good person deserved to have a good spouse and friends. A good person can be happy staying single forever if that is his choice. A good person can also find good companions (spouse and friends) to supercharge his happiness. Conversely, a bad person only deserved to have a bad spouse and bad “friends” (who are actually enemies harmful to his well-being). A bad person will be unhappy either being single or being married.

The key to happiness is really to cultivate perfection of virtue, equanimity and wisdom. Life is only worth living if one is happy, regardless of whether he is single or married.