Narcissists

Most people are unhappy with themselves and their lives. Some of them are oblivious about their unhappiness; they think that they are happy. This is evident by their behaviors of fear, anger, anxiety, worries; occasionally, they also experience depression, sorrow, grief, lamentations and despair. Narcissists are typically unhappy. They are unhappy because they want perfection so much; they want themselves to be perfect, to have perfect things, and they have a lot of aversions towards imperfections of themselves and others. They live with a lot of self-torturing. The cause of the torturing is ego.

Narcissists have mental illness. Instead of feeling angry or distasteful about them, we should pity them. We must cultivate our loving-kindness (Metta) and forgive their narcissistic behaviors. We must feel so blessed and fortunate that we are not mentally ill like them. We must cultivate our compassion (Karuna) and try to help them whenever we can. The best help is to show them the light. We must cultivate our equanimity (Upekkhā) and remain concentrated on our inner peace; unmoved by whatever happens in the outer world. If we are unmoved by gain and loss, fame and despise, praise and blame, sensual pleasure and displeasure, we will never feel unhappy. Staying concentrated inward is for our freedom of mind; it is priceless and we must not grant anybody the permission to take it away. Nobody can hurt us unless we allow them or give them the prerogative to decide how we feel. Empathetic joy (Muditā) will come naturally if we give close attention to our mind.